A few weeks ago I was with a group of friends playing a party game. The idea of the game was to get someone to guess what we were talking about by giving a brief description about the "thing." On this particular round the "thing" was our "best friend." Several people would describe attributes of their spouse or boyfriend/girlfriend. I didn't. Yep, I didn't use my wife as my example of my best friend.
In the last couple weeks I have been thinking a lot about this. Am I married to my best friend? Am I in a bad marriage? Is our marriage doomed? Am I a bad husband? Am I just a jerk? Now, the answer to the last two questions may not have anything to do with how I responded to the question in the game.
The notion of being married to your best friend is a very romantic one. It places your spouse at the very top of your friend list, they are your most important friend in your life, they are your everything. That is a wonderful sentiment, but is it selling the relationship between my wife and I short? She is not my best friend, she is my wife. That is more. I think we have taken this idea of what our marriages are and what they are meant to be and have tried to apply the same standards of our other relationships to them.
In the last couple weeks I have been thinking a lot about this. Am I married to my best friend? Am I in a bad marriage? Is our marriage doomed? Am I a bad husband? Am I just a jerk? Now, the answer to the last two questions may not have anything to do with how I responded to the question in the game.
The notion of being married to your best friend is a very romantic one. It places your spouse at the very top of your friend list, they are your most important friend in your life, they are your everything. That is a wonderful sentiment, but is it selling the relationship between my wife and I short? She is not my best friend, she is my wife. That is more. I think we have taken this idea of what our marriages are and what they are meant to be and have tried to apply the same standards of our other relationships to them.
She is not my best friend, she is my wife. That is more.